This is something I’ve been thinking to write about for a while now ( so I am actually thinking all those times that I am being my not-so-talkative self,see!), having been on both sides of the introvert/extrovert line.The universally acknowledged idea of ‘introvert’ seems to be ‘weirdo-loner’.The universal idea, as is its wont, is.. amazingly wrong.And stupid.To me, the essential differences between an introvert and an extrovert are the ability to make small-talk and spontaneity.
The general idea also seems to be that introversion is something of a recessive trait.It’s easy to see where this comes from since extroverts seem to easily fit the conventional ‘social’ mould.And it’s true, it’s easier to talk to an extrovert since that kind interaction is just what they seem to crave.Meaning, it is advantageous, being an extrovert -but only (bold,italics,underline!) because most people are, making it more ‘acceptable’.
Take a look at the most successful people in the entertainment biz and you’ll find that they’re generally easy around a cam, or on interviews..The introverts?Not so much.But the thing that people seem blissfully blind to is that where skill or personality is concerned, there’s no such division -it’s simply that some people are very easy to like because of an ability to completely throw themselves into things and express themselves without..*sort of mutters to self*<– just that.That’s supposed to say that they’re better at expressing themselves.See what I mean? 🙂
Introverts, on the other hand seem to prefer quiter forms of expression.They (we?) are not averse to talking, but to making small talk- this being acceptable only under certain circumstances, say, a first meeting.To my observation, they prefer one-on-one conversations with some depth and can actually be real jabberjaws, come to that.With extroverts, tongue-wagging becomes almost essential and anyone who doesn’t seem to want to fuel conversation just for the sake of it “has issues“.I wont pass judgement on the choice to: make small-talk or abhor it, but I’m guessing it’s pretty clear thus far, eh?
From the little research I did, apparently there’s actually differences in what energizes your typical extrovert Vs. the introvert.While social engagement activates the frontal lobes of the extrovert-brain, the introvert is better energized by more inwardly-directed, individualistic activities such as reading.
So where exactly is all of this going? No idea.I suppose I’m asking just why, in a world where we learn straight from grade One to set cultural and ethical differences aside, Introverts are regarded as a social(or should I say anti-social?)-ly ‘difficult’ people.
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Also : yes, I’ve finally changed my display image to match my avatar so you know I’m not really schizophrenic.I mean, not really..
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Update : Famous introverts ( bit of a paradox, no? But hey, we are the Oxymorons..) : Queen Elizabeth II, Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton, Charles Darwin, Steven Spielberg, Michael Jordan, Katherine Hepburn..to name a few. And :
Introverts’ contributions to society far exceed their numbers. Estimated to be a mere 30% of the population, many of these people have changed our lives inestimably.
So,ah, you can now run along and be proud if you are one.Or something like that.XD